"Genuine" ???

"Genuine" ???
You ever have someone tell you that you "do have an opinion" on a certain issue, when you don't have one? They insist that you're lying, or denying an emotion on an issue. They pry at you to "be honest, you know you hate them"....when you know your own mind's workings better than anyone, and already know what kind of outlook you are trying to develop. I've run into this from time to time. You can choose to not get caught up in a political/social issue, because you realize there's a choice not to pick that manure up and play with it for entertainment.

Some folks dont' accept that, they feel that to be "genuine" you've got to either stand "for or against" things. That's when communication becomes a real challenge.

Also, if you are overly nice, polite, etc....some folks see that as "not genuine" which is another challenge in communication. Some people have been conned, and resent "overly nice people" for security reasons. That's a natural reaction. A friend of mine, who recently passed away, told me one time that "some people that you're nice to, might find your "niceness" cheap because they didn't earn it yet....that you haven't gotten to know them well enough yet, and you're already giving them free love and free trust." I understood what he was getting at, and had thought about that in the past, but he worded it even better than my paraphrase. There are other reasons people are distant with those smiling faces. It comes back to that old line, "nobody can be that happy.." You start wondering, "what's this guy(or gal) selling?!!"

There are also people who know that there's a game going on but have stopped investigating things for the time being. They know people are playing a game of some kind, that people are on their own trips and that you can trust some. For most part, they feel people can't be trusted or counted on...so they throw their hands up in the air. They've been so disappointed in the past. I include myself in this. Sometimes we sit on top of the disappointment in people, in general...its almost comforting in a way to give up on people...........and we don't see a choice in perception of how to engage with life, how to approach life. I include myself in all this, I've been through all these at one point or another...its natural. These days, I'm not so much involved in this stuff though. Though, there are always things to work on.

I have no advice, or wondrous knowledge to give, I only write to share thoughts, in hopes that something is helpful to someone. Hopefully, if you've found yourself closed to people, like I have in my own life at times, maybe something here will spark a new way of looking at things. I have no idea if anyone will read this much of my stuff, I get long winded...lol. :)

I don't want to question whether people are genuine....that is like building a case "for or against" humanity and including everyone. If you're already leaning toward giving up on people, you'll find a reason to be disappointed in people because people are human and make mistakes. Its a choice, I think....to let go and start over, each moment, each day, each week, month....and so on. It's not always easy. This concludes the "genuine" question portion of the blog. :D